Why I Choose to Use the Word Mentor Instead of Life Coach.

I want to help people be happy, healthy and free from the pressure society places upon them. This is why I have spent years perfecting my psychic readings to be more guidance from beyond than fortune telling gimmicks. It is why I have, and continue to study ways to be a successful life coach, healer and support to the clients who come to me.

I am just not comfortable using the term life coach to describe my services, I don't feel like I am a coach, I'm not running plays for you or clapping from the sideline. I am right there on the field, not catching the ball, that is after all still your job, but I am supporting you, we are on the same team. I show you catching the hardest ball is possible, and then I watch as you start to believe you really can catch it.

You will have to forgive me the clunky sports analogy, it is an area in life where I have never been (and probably never will be), motivated to be an expert. The word coach makes me think of sports, ignoring pain and tough love. Many life coaches tell you tough love is needed, so I guess for them coach is the right word. It just isn't the word for me, for what I offer my clients.

I use mentor because it comes from a place of love and connection. Don't get me wrong, I know there must be boundaries between myself and my clients, but I am deeply invested in helping everyone who comes to me. As your spiritual mentor I hold space with you, let you express your self and then together we find the path forward.

My sessions are based on the practices of life coaching, however they go deeper on a spiritual level and your guides and sometimes past loved ones are there with us. I use my natural compassion, psychic mediumship, and intuition as I truly listen to what not only your physical self, but your soul is saying.

We use the first sessions to delve deeply into your subconscious and find what holds you back and how we can change your limiting beliefs. We set goals and break them down into manageable steps. We talk confidentially about your life, and mine, and how to overcome comfortable habits which no longer serve us.

As your mentor, it is my place to nurture you, encourage you, praise you, and celebrate you. I will never judge you, rush you, mislead you or give up on you. From me you will get the truth, but, it will never be cold or hard. I believe by nurturing you and giving you space to forgive and nurture yourself anything is possible.

Now I know you are going to ask how I know anything is possible, and that is a good question. I grew up as a victim, never having a voice of my own, believing I was as worthless as those meant to nurture me said I was. I took this victimhood into adult life, I was not an active participant, I allowed things to happen to me (both good and bad) instead of taking control of my future.

I am a survivour of childhood abuse, death defying situations, sexual assult, self harming behaviours, suicide attempts and self loathing. I have not only survived though, I have thrived. All these things made me stronger, gave me the life experience to be able to share and help others. I have shed the victim skin, and now shine as my own hero, and a pioneer for those ready to step forward and find their own sparkle.

It took over 40 years to reach this place where I am able to see my strength and the gifts I have to offer the world. I now stand tall, shruging off the harsh judgements of society. I know my worth and I know my goals. I see beauty and love from the Divine everywhere, and yet still know the value of our shadow selves. I am profoundly spiritual, deeply grounded, always authentic and 100% motivated to help my clients see how unique and wonderfully sacred their soul is.

If you would like to know more about the experiences which have shaped me, check out my other blogposts. If you would like to know more about my mentoring packages, send me an email or find me on Facebook, twitter, Instagram or YouTube.

Diamonds May Not Be a Girls Best Friend After All!

April is my birth month, diamonds are my birthstone. Growing up my mother always gave me diamonds for special birthdays. I always felt special with my little diamond chip rings and necklaces. As I became older and more aware of the world I started to find diamonds a little plain and overpriced. I also began developing my social and political consciousness, I began worrying about where the diamond was sourced. I absolutely abhor the thought of having someone’s blood and suffering (quite literally) on my hands. When it was time to choose an engagement ring my now husband and I both agreed diamonds were out. It may be a symbol of love, commitment and fidelity, but it was not the right symbol for us (I’ll tell you about my engagement ring another time).

These days I only wear diamonds of sentimental nature. My mother’s eternity ring and the diamond and sapphire pendant my father gave my mother when I was born. If you love diamonds however, and just can’t live without them, don’t despair, there are countries that produce beautiful diamonds without the torture, death and blood marring the beauty. I have seen Argyle diamonds from the Kimberly region right here in Australia which make me rethink my idea of diamonds being plain and overpriced. In fact, now I think about it I do own a lovely, ethically sourced, black diamond ring which my mother bought me. 

Why would it be so important to ensure our diamonds are ethically sourced? Energy of course! All crystals and stones have their own energy as well as energy from those who have handled them. you could cleanse your diamonds well, but I tend to think that much pain and suffering would leave an imprint. To me it is the same kind of unmovable negative energy as accumulates in stolen crystals. It is definitely not the kind of zing you want in a healing, magical, or meditation tool.

So, once you have your ethically sourced diamonds what can you look forward to?

A diamond can help clear and energise the heart, third eye and crown chakras. It brings us closer to our higher self and helps us understand our soul purpose in this lifetime as well as clarify our life lessons. Diamonds can help our intellect and ego connect with our higher consciousness, bringing all states of our being into alignment to work together towards one goal. By bringing all the different parts of our self together, (physical, emotional, spiritual), diamonds can help us manifest our dreams and goals, especially when worn on our person every day.

As I stated earlier diamonds are seen as symbols of love, commitment, and fidelity, however, they also symbolise: purity, wealth, manifestation, abundance, and transformation. Personally, I feel diamonds should not be used to symbolise wealth as to me they symbolise “wealth at any cost”, due to the controversy surrounding blood diamonds and the Cartels that trade in them.

Diamonds are a wonderful stone to use for transformation, and an awesome stone to carry during hard times. As we all learn very early in life, the beautiful diamond was once a dark and dusty piece of charcoal exposed to tremendous amounts of pressure. By reminding ourselves of how a diamond becomes such a beautiful precious stone, we can focus on learning and transforming ourselves through the hard times of our lives. We can remain graceful under pressure knowing that we will not only survive but come out the other side as something more beautiful and refined. 

Diamonds are great amplifiers and will exacerbate any emotional state, whether positive or negative. Some people believe it is better to take your diamonds off when entering a less then ideal emotional state, I believe however that if you cleanse your diamonds well and program them clearly they can help reinforce our positive moments even when we are going through the negative. Diamonds help us deal with emotional and mental anguish by bringing clarity of thought and enabling us to see and heal the trigger to such painful, destructive, and debilitating responses.

A diamond is a valuable tool for those of us undertaking shadow work, as it can show us the light at the end of the tunnel and help lead us out of the darkness with a greater sense of self. The transformative and clear-thinking aspect of the diamond makes it very useful for creative endeavours, using our imagination, and finding our courage. The perfect gift for writers, artists, musicians, or anyone who makes their living creatively.

Diamonds can also assist those living with glaucoma, blurry vision, allergies, and chronic conditions. It is also a good stone to help re-balance the metabolism, and aid in weight loss and the transformation of our body’s shape.

On a spiritual level diamonds help with psychic development by connecting us to higher planes and activating our prefrontal lobe, which is the seat of our paranormal abilities. It makes higher energies in the spiritual realms more accessible while at the same time filling holes and recharging our auric fields. It is a great stone for clairvoyants as it enhances inner visions and intuitive connections, especially when held against the third eye/forehead.

It is the every ready battery of the crystal world, it never needs recharging and boosts and recharges other stones placed near it. Over all Diamond is a pretty spectacular stone when we view it as more than just a gift of love or show of status. It has many uses and as long as we continue to find ethical sources it can be a great healing or magical tool within our crystal collections.

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